“Solitude and Its Importance.” - Victoria PD- Health Coach

- “Solitude And Its Importance.”

As we are evolving, realizing that it is no longer necessary to practice many customs and habits of the past, and with technology, we increasingly have our own space, and the commitment to having someone by our side is often no longer at the forefront. . However, being alone and being lonely are different things.

A few months ago, I arranged with a colleague of mine to go out on Saturday. I was getting ready and suddenly at the last minute, she said she couldn't go anymore because she wasn't feeling up to it. That upset me a little, of course, but within seconds I returned his message, and then continued to get ready. It was a beautiful sun. I went out, had fun, ate well, made some recordings of the city, and came back at night. Talking later with my parents, I realized that even for society, being alone can be very difficult. I had a very complicated phase in my life a few years ago about this, but that's for another text. However, basically the difference is that at that time, I wasn't alone, I was alone.

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The reason I went out alone and it didn't affect me, is because even though I didn't have company that day, I was with myself. Every day, I have the privilege of seeing people, listening to them, going out and seeing people, different from back then. In other words, soon I no longer need to have someone always by my side, sometimes I confess that I even prefer to be alone. The region where you live can often influence your behavior, the way you live, mood, and personality, thus influencing your lifestyle, both for “good” and “bad.” The life of a person who lives in Switzerland is very different from the life of a person who lives in Spain, for example. Here we can already see that there are differences in climate, clothing, food, culture, and this all interferes without us realizing it. Consequently, in some places, it is natural to have a more solitary lifestyle, as well as in others, a more “social” life, like Brazil, in general, for example.

Loneliness- Being and Feeling Alone

I say that loneliness is often even being surrounded by people, but not feeling like you “fit in,” or that you are part of that group. It's that feeling of emptiness. Even though people are kind and willing to be there for you, you still feel alone, which can be very dangerous. If these symptoms continue, it is recommended that you consult a psychologist and therapist for assistance.

Solitude- Can You Live With Its Silence?

Solitude is having a moment of your own. It's about you having your space, even if it's just for a few minutes. It could be you drinking good wine alone, reading something you like, or going somewhere. There is nothing wrong with that, quite the contrary, it can help you to have new ideals, reflect and think about life, find solutions, “listen to the silence.” Can you live with silence? No cars, no cell phones, noises, voices... I love having my silence. I usually do this in the afternoon. I drink my coffee with milk, eat something, and stay quiet. I love that. I can clear my mind, stop myself from the rush of people's automatic world, take time to rest before continuing with the day's tasks, and listen to myself. Do you listen to yourself internally? How have you been feeling? What have you been thinking about? Why have you been thinking about this so much? Solitude is also related to self-love. When we love ourselves, we don't see the need to always have someone by our side. In other words, in addition to showing you your value, solitude reminds you of your own essence, and the things that you recognize as priorities in your life. From values ​​to objectives, transformed into goals.

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At the end of the day

At the end of the day, it's natural to miss having company. And it doesn't have to be in a romantic sense. Like I said earlier, it's not wrong to want to be with someone. It is healthy, and it is still part of the history of human beings to live collectively. Just as it is also healthy to have your moment. The important thing is to find a balance point where there is no dangerous emotional dependence. “But Victoria, since when has there been healthy emotional dependence?” As I wrote above, we as human beings will always depend on someone for something. And we cannot be hypocrites in denying the affection we have for our family, friends, and loved ones. So remember: Solitude is healthy. You just need to understand and know how to think about it so it doesn't turn into loneliness.

 

Written by Victória Parada Daros

Health Coach.

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- "Solitude And Its Importance."

As we are evolving, realizing that it is no longer necessary to practice many customs and habits of the past, and with habits technology, we increasingly have our own space, and the commitment of having someone by our side is often no longer a priority. However, be alone and be lonely are different things.

A few months ago, I arranged with a colleague of mine to go out on Saturday. I was getting ready and suddenly at the last minute, she said she couldn't go anymore because she wasn't feeling well. That annoyed me a little bit, of course, but within seconds I replied her, and then kept getting ready to go out. It was a beautiful sunny day. I went out, had fun, even well, did some recordings of the city, and by night came back. Talking later with my parents, I realized that even for society this thing about being alone can be very difficult. I had a really rough path in my life a few years ago about this, but that's for another post. But basically the difference is that at that time, I wasn't alone, I was lonely.

Image owned by Lifestyle Unstoppable.

The reason I went out alone that day, and it didn't affect me, is because even though I didn't have a company, I was with myself. Every day, I have the privilege of seeing people, listening to them, going out, unlike then. That is, soon I don't have the need to have a person always by my side, sometimes I confess that I even prefer to be more on my own. The region where you live can often influence your behavior, the way you live, mood, and personality, thus influencing your lifestyle, both for “good” and “bad.” The life of a person living in Switzerland is quite different from the life of a person living in Spain, for example. Here we can already see that there are differences in climate, clothes, food, culture, and this all interferes without us realizing it. Consequently, in some places, it is natural to have a more solitary lifestyle, as well as in others, a more “social” life, like in Brazil, in general, for example.

Loneliness - Being and Feeling Alone

I say that loneliness is often even being surrounded by people, but not feeling like you "fit in," or that you're part of that group. It's that feeling of emptiness. Even though people are kind and willing to be there with you, you still feel lonely, which can be very dangerous. If these symptoms continue, it is recommended to consult a psychologist and therapist for assistance.

Solitude- Can You Live With Your Silence?

Solitude is you having a moment of your own. It's about you having your space, even if it's just for a few minutes. It could be you having a good wine alone, reading something you like, or going somewhere. There is nothing wrong with that, on the contrary it can help you to have new ideas, reflect and think about life, find solutions, “listen to the silence.” Can you live with the silence? No cars, no cell phones, noises, voices… I love having my silence. I usually do this in the afternoon. I drink my latte, eat a little something, and keep quiet. I love that. I can clear my mind, stop myself from the rush of people's automatic world, take time to rest before continuing the day's tasks, and listen to myself. Do you listen to yourself inside? How have you been feeling? What have you been thinking about? Why are you thinking so much about it? Solitude is also related to self-love. When we love each other, we don't see the need to have a person always by our side. That is, in addition to showing you your value, solitude reminds you of your own essence, and the things you recognize as a priority in your life. From values ​​to goals, transformed into goals.

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At The End of The Day

At the end of the day, it's natural to miss having someone. And that doesn't have to be in the romantic sense. As I said earlier, it's not wrong to want to be with someone. It is healthy, and it is still part of the history of human beings to live collectively. Just as it's also healthy to have your moment. The important thing is to find a balance where there is no dangerous emotional dependence. “But Victoria since when is there healthy emotional dependence?” As I wrote above, we as human beings will always depend on someone for something. And we can't be hypocritical to deny the affection we have for our family, friends, and loved ones. So remember: Solitude is healthy. You just need to understand and know how to ponder it so it doesn't turn into loneliness.

 

Written by Victoria Parada Daros

Health Coach.

Translated by Unstoppable Team.

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